Do you ever worry about your parenting? Do you ever wonder if you are helping your kids or ruining them?
Am I disciplining the right way? Am I too lenient or too strict?
Proverbs 14 is such a rich chapter! There’s 2 scriptures I’d like to focus on today about thetopic – Family. They are promises and truth that I strongly desire for my family. Considering how my heart is turned towards my family, my husband and kids, because of the deep love I have for them, I want to reflect on these scriptures. The promises in these verses aren’t necessarily for me, as the parent, but are for my kids.
I desire all beautiful things that come from heaven for them. I know that in part, it depends on my life with God. There is an inheritance for them that will provide them with riches that money cannot buy.
The household of the wicked is soon torn apart, while the family of the righteous flourishes.Proverbs 14:11
Confidence and strength flood the hearts of the lovers of God who live in awe of him, and their devotion provides their children with a place of shelter and security.Proverbs 14:26
Because they are a bit different from traditional translations, let me share the NASB translation for each one…because I like a balance and transparency.
The house of the wicked will be destroyed, but the tent of the upright will flourish. (14:11)
In the fear of the Lord there is strong confidence, and his children will have refuge. (Proverbs 14:26)
While these verses (especially 26) seem a bit different in the TPT, they really aren’t. TPT simply elaborates and defines what the fear of the Lord is in a way that is relevant and understandable in our language today.
What’s interesting is that we spent some time in prayer and worship while we were at a friend’s house the other day and the Lord spoke a word that was similar to this. As parents, our devotion to Jesus brings a strong sense of security to our children. I’m not talking about going to church once or twice a week. I’m referring to having a relationship with Jesus that is so real and deep, He is as real in your home as every family member. And, just as you have conversation and spend time with your spouse and kids, it’s physically apparent that there is conversation and time spent with Jesus.
It’s not uncommon for my kids to see me reading the Bible or a Christian book, writing in a journal things I’m learning or hearing from God, listening to a preaching or worship music, hearing me talk about Jesus, or watching a Christian movie or show. As a matter of fact, saying it’s not uncommon isn’t really accurate. It’s normal in our home. It became very apparent how real it is when I was listening to my daughter share something at my friends house during our time of prayer.
My children find themselves in an uncommon living environment and therefore are limited in finding friends that can truly understand them. From a social perspective, I realized how hard it must be for them to go to school every day and be surrounded by people who wouldn’t understand their home life, but at the same time I realized that they didn’t really care because they feel safe at home. There is a sense of security that they have because of our faith in Jesus. There is peace and hope at home that they have as a foundation.
Sometimes as parents, we get so busy that we forget our kids are watching us. They are receiving from us even when we think we aren’t giving them anything. They are learning how to be and behave by watching how we are and behave. It’s a tremendous responsibility. Even how we handle our own shortcomings and insecurities is extremely important so that our kids don’t embrace the culture of shame that breeds living in the shadows.
The truth is that there are families where the parents love Jesus, but when the kids get older they are drawn to the ways of the world. They align with the wrong things and run away from God. However, we must hold fast to the promises of God for us and our families. It is not our duty as parents to control our children or force them to have a relationship with God. It is our responsibility to teach them in His ways. What they choose to do with those seeds is up to them, but we must believe that even if they look a way for a time, they won’t be far from what we have taught them. The seeds will always be there and when they decide, it’ll be available for them to tap into.
Living in the fear of the Lord (complete surrender), in relationship, and worship is key to
- our kids living with a sense of longing and security
- the entire household being blessed and flourishing
- leaving our children and their children with a glorious inheritance